I love those shoes. I love the way she talks. I love Paris. I love travel.  I love…

I am not saying that every time we say we love something we never really mean it, but most of the times when we say we love something we don’t really love it. We are actually in love with the idea of loving it and don’t even realise it.

On numerous occasions I have bought things thinking “that’s awe inspiringly gorgeous and I want it!” and gone home feeling this weird sense of achievement which has made me smile non-stop,  only to realize, it doesn’t suit me or I don’t like it anymore! Some may call it impulsive shopping but I like to believe it happened because I was merely in love with the idea of owning it as oppose to actually owning it.

Ask me what I‘d love to be and I can list at least 10 professions. Writing, marketing, public relations, events, travel and tourism, advertising, production, lecturing (if that counts)… and it goes on. The thing I am trying to get at is that I don’t really love all these things I mentioned. It’s more the idea of loving these things or being someone who can love them that I love more, which is why I think I can do well in almost all of them in the first place. I love the idea of being a writer or an artist or a travel junkie or a singer! It doesn’t necessarily mean I can actually be any of them.

A very controversial and highly debatable, but liked by most, is the fascinating subject of relationships. Basing my opinion purely on my observations and experiences, I feel most relationships get strained over time not because people fall out of love but because they get so used to the idea of loving each other that they don’t realize when they fall out of love. When they do snap out of their used-to-be-happy-world they realize they don’t really love each other, it’s just the idea that appeals to them.

Although you might feel a little negative when you realize that, you shouldn’t. Because unless you get rid of what you are stuck with, you won’t find a better idea. So even if you just love the idea of something and later realize that you don’t really love it, it’s alright. Move on and see if you love some other idea! And keep going till you finally fall in love with what you really love!

11 thoughts on “You don’t really love it; you just love the idea of loving it!

  1. Feeling negative isn't a bad thing at all I feel, after reading your post. Hi. its nice to stumble upon wumble-jumble. The post made me feel nice, especially coz people ask me about what i'd like to be, and i list atleast 7 professions too…although writing and theatre does come up as numero uno and fight for the number one spot. Just felt like its a nice post. 🙂 Cheers. (btw the id in my user profile has a VERY OLD BLOG, and im lazy enough to keep it that way 😦 )


  2. I don't think you should, but go right ahead. :p . Liked your other articles, and I love how you don't have a 'particular' style to your writing. Freer and less 'worked up' 🙂


  3. I guess your writing reflects your mood, and I guess that's what the wumble-jumble in your title talks about? That's also what a blog usually tries to do when its up out on the net, for everyone to see. I'm glad i stumbled upon it :). Would love to see more of your work here. Do you write anywhere else? Also…did you see my REALLY OLD blog at all? :p



  4. Nicely said. This exact bias (of not really loving but loving the idea of loving) is something I had first stumbled upon a few years ago and since then I've noticed it and found it to be quite true.

    You mention how it plays into relationships towards the demise of one, but it very often also results in a relationship that perhaps never should have been in the first place. Too often people 'fall in love' merely because they are enamoured by the idea of being in love. In my opinion this can, at least in part, be attributed to the overload of romance and the romanticism of romance we face every day whether it be in books, movies or songs.


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