I love those shoes. I love the way she talks. I love Paris. I love travel. I love…
I am not saying that every time we say we love something we never really mean it, but most of the times when we say we love something we don’t really love it. We are actually in love with the idea of loving it and don’t even realise it.
On numerous occasions I have bought things thinking “that’s awe inspiringly gorgeous and I want it!” and gone home feeling this weird sense of achievement which has made me smile non-stop, only to realize, it doesn’t suit me or I don’t like it anymore! Some may call it impulsive shopping but I like to believe it happened because I was merely in love with the idea of owning it as oppose to actually owning it.
Ask me what I‘d love to be and I can list at least 10 professions. Writing, marketing, public relations, events, travel and tourism, advertising, production, lecturing (if that counts)… and it goes on. The thing I am trying to get at is that I don’t really love all these things I mentioned. It’s more the idea of loving these things or being someone who can love them that I love more, which is why I think I can do well in almost all of them in the first place. I love the idea of being a writer or an artist or a travel junkie or a singer! It doesn’t necessarily mean I can actually be any of them.
A very controversial and highly debatable, but liked by most, is the fascinating subject of relationships. Basing my opinion purely on my observations and experiences, I feel most relationships get strained over time not because people fall out of love but because they get so used to the idea of loving each other that they don’t realize when they fall out of love. When they do snap out of their used-to-be-happy-world they realize they don’t really love each other, it’s just the idea that appeals to them.
Although you might feel a little negative when you realize that, you shouldn’t. Because unless you get rid of what you are stuck with, you won’t find a better idea. So even if you just love the idea of something and later realize that you don’t really love it, it’s alright. Move on and see if you love some other idea! And keep going till you finally fall in love with what you really love!